White, Milk, or Dark Chocolate? What Does it Matter...When I Have A Chocolate Craving I Just Want Some Chocolate!

I can remember when my youngest daughter, was old enough too distinct the difference between different hair textures, she would always say, “Mommy, I want white girls hair”, I would reply why, and she would then reply “because their hair is prettier and it sways back and forth”. Even at three years old, my daughter could tell that even hair texture of the white race girls were preferred over the texture of an African American girl. At three years old, how did she come to this? I never did ask her, what made her think that their hair was better that hers, and now she doesn’t even remember why she said that and what would make her say such a thing.
All the pieces read for today, tie into my theme for my final paper, and they really tie into each other as the issue that no matter what shapes our lips, texture our hair, the color of our skin, the size of our backside, or front side for that matter, we can never measure up. Not to societies expectations, but our own expectations. We set such high standards because it’s what we think society wants us to think. This has a lot to do with the advertisements of today’s products. Fashion, perfume, mouthwash, cars, alcohol, etc, everything sold now a day’s involves sex. It takes sex for everything; you have to be sexy to where perfume, drinking alcohol drives you to sex, you have to wear sexy clothes, and in order to do that you must be a certain size to be looked upon as being SEXY. But why does it take sex to sell everything? Take the Dove commercials, finally a product that has decided to put real women in the commercial. They’re not airbrushed, or tummy tucked. They have wrinkles, they are over the age of 50, and they are overweight. They are real women of the real world. There is nothing perfect about them, but they are happy to be who they are. Used to be a day that I worked so hard to lose weight and maintain a certain stature of how I looked. Why? Because I wanted to be attractive to other people, now the only reason why I work out is to be healthy and to live a long fulfilling life. If I lose weight along with being healthy then great, I have accomplished two things at one time. But to be healthy is the main and only reason. I like food too much and love to eat and have starved myself before in order to lose weight, but I wasn’t happy in life because I was hungry all the time.
As women we need to embrace our beauty as we see it and not how society sees it. We need to embrace and encourage other women on their beauty. When you see someone that doesn’t look like you or have features like you that are ok, because we were not created equally or simultaneously. We created to be special and different and that is what makes this world so interesting. I believe that I might have mentioned this before. If we all looked the same, then we would be stuck in the middle of the Avatar movie, blue with pointy ears and tails.